Lindsay Manfredi is a musician, author, and unapologetic truth-teller. As bassist for the platinum-selling rock band Cold, she has toured nationwide, forging powerful connections with audiences through both music and story.
Beyond the stage, she is the author of Unfuckwithable: A Guide to Inspired Badassery, an empowering book that weaves raw personal narrative with a mission to spark resilience, self-worth, and authenticity.
Her newest memoir, The Girl Who Cried Love: A Pivot to Self-Worth, is a bold invitation for readers to reclaim their power and rediscover the magic that has always been within them.
Passionate about sparking conversations that heal and uplift, Lindsay uses her platform to encourage others to step fully into their worth. She’s ready to bring that same energy to podcasts, interviews, and stages worldwide.
“From the bassist of a two-time Gold Album–selling rock band comes a raw, unfiltered memoir about heartbreak, healing, and the radical power of choosing self-worth.”
September 9, 2025 — Musician, author, and TEDx speaker Lindsay Manfredi, bassist for the two-time Gold Album–selling rock band Cold, has released her highly anticipated memoir, The Girl Who Cried Love: A Pivot to Self-Worth.
Blending the grit of rock ‘n’ roll with the honesty of personal transformation, Manfredi shares her journey of breaking free from toxic relationship cycles, healing from heartbreak, and reclaiming her power. Written in her signature unfiltered style, the book offers both memoir and message—an empowering invitation to shift from self-sabotage to self-worth.
“This isn’t just my story,” says Manfredi. “It’s for anyone who’s ever abandoned themselves for love or felt stuck in a pattern they couldn’t break. I want people to know they’re not alone—and that it’s never too late to write a new story.”
The Girl Who Cried Love is available in paperback, ebook, and audiobook formats through Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and independent bookstores nationwide.
What first got you into music?
I’ve been into music my entire life. Listening to it, dancing to it, losing myself in it. Music has always been the one thing I could relate to when I couldn’t relate to anything else.I think it could ultimately have been a rebellious choice because of how I was raised in such a staunch Christian home, where anything secular was of the devil. I never understood what was so wrong with music that made you feel emotions outside of praising God. I used to have to sneak around to listen to the radio in the 80s.
Who or what inspired you to play music?
Debbie Gibson and Madonna were my first loves. Plus, I could sing, so I always had a dream of becoming a pop star as a young child. Then the 90s came, and Courtney Love was the reason I picked up a guitar. The music of the 90s shaped my love of music in the most profound and beautiful way, especially the writing of Billy Corgan. I always listened to every instrument separately and picked apart all the tiny parts that made a song so profound for me. I knew I wanted to be a piece of creating something so extraordinary in my life. I’m blessed to be in the position I’m in, playing for Cold, a band I was a fan of for over 15 years.
How do you handle the pressures of performance, and have your strategies evolved over time?
Performing is the best kind of pressure and stress; however, I think the best way I handle it is by being prepared. I spend hours daily for a month or two leading up to a tour, rehearsing nonstop, so I can play everything without thinking about it. That way, I can have fun onstage versus concentrating as much. It’s way more of a flow and a vibe when I’m well-prepared. The best strategy I have now also is that I’m sober, and everything is much more present and elevated.
How did music inspire or lead to you writing your new book, The Girl Who Cried Love: A Pivot to Self-Worth?
Music wasn’t as much of an inspiration to this particular book as it was to my first book, Unf*ckwithable: A Guide to Inspired Bad*ssery. The new book homes in on many of the challenges I’ve faced as a touring musician in many of my relationships: the insecurities, jealousy, and projection I’ve dealt with from those I’ve chosen to be in relationships with. However, regardless, music has always saved me in my most devastating moments.
Tell us a little about your latest book.
The book was inspired by the fact that I would always say, “This person is the one,” only to find out the person was NOT the one…which is the play on The Boy Who Cried Wolf. So, it’s an account of the mistakes I’ve made looking for love in all the wrong places, rather than within; ignoring red flags and hiding my true feelings out of fear that I was too much. I played the role of the “cool girl” way too long and neglected my own needs, dreams, and goals trying to make a relationship work.
I was in a roller coaster relationship leading up to the finishing point of this book and had spent years trying to prove I was worthy of someone else’s love who literally gave the bare minimum. It was an awakening for me to finally let go and really take a good look at myself, my past, and the stories I was telling myself. Also, I wanted this book to be different. Every time I would read a book or hear someone talk about toxic relationships, I always wanted to know more. What made it toxic? What was going on? Was it jealousy? Was it addiction? What kind of addiction? Like, I wanted to know more. Would I be able to relate to those people? So, I wrote about it all: the fights, the hard moments, what they were about, what was going on in my mind, why I stayed, and the excuses I made. I wanted to share an honest account of how I contributed to the problems as well, so others could actually relate and realize they’re not alone and they’re not crazy. Well, unless they ARE crazy, then that’s a whole different story. I wanted to be as transparent as I possibly could be to help others maybe take a look at what’s going on in their own lives.
What is your creative process like?
I’m not sure I really have a process. I just hear whatever is in my mind and start it. I just start typing the story and see where it takes me.That’s how I write music as well. I’ll hear something in my head that sounds good to me and grab an instrument and figure it out. Whatever is in my head, I’ll get it out, then figure out how it all goes together when the time comes for it to all come together. It’s pretty magical, to be honest. I think creating is a very spiritual process. It’s ultimately our godlike essence.
What is the one thing you hope readers take away from your memoir?
That it’s never too late to start over and create the life you’ve always dreamed of. That we are way more powerful than we know. And don’t settle out of fear. And definitely don’t settle for someone who can’t give you what you truly need. I have many takeaways for my readers from this book.
If you could pass on a nugget of wisdom to the next generation, what would it be?
We are here for a purpose. And you are worthy just because. There is no need to prove your worth to ANYONE. It’s important to take the time to get to know ourselves and fall in love with ourselves. We are here to experience all these beautiful emotions. Even the seemingly worst moments are a gift because we are ALIVE. Everything helps us to evolve into better humans when we choose to see the beauty around us.
If you could have any superhero power, what would it be and why?
Teleportation because I love to travel and have friends all over the world. I’d love to just instantly be wherever I wanted to be.
What two nonessential items would you want if you were shipwrecked on a deserted island?
An instrument and baby wipes.
What would you do if you had to work but didn’t need the money?
Exactly what I’m doing now.
What is the funniest thing that happened to you recently?
I gave someone my number, which I rarely do, and it turns out he’s a male escort. All my friends got a laugh out of that. It’s actually a hysterical story. When he told me, I just told him I wasn’t that bitch and to keep making the world a better place, because he’s obviously making people happy.
What makes you nostalgic?
Definitely the music of the 90s. And Tears for Fears.
What is your most expensive piece of clothing?
I bought a pair of $700 cowboy boots from Allen’s Boots one year at SXSW in like 2010. I’ve worn them like five times. And I refuse to get rid of them because you never know when you’re gunna need a $700 pair of dope-ass cowboy boots.
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